Thank you McKing from Lee McKing Hypnotherapy Pte Ltd for gracing this interview! Aside from his profession as a hypnotist, McKing recently co-authored “Because I am Introvert, I Triumph” book – a collection of stories of how introverts harness their traits to flourish in career, business and social life.
I caught up with him at the book launch yesterday and I’m excited to discover that introverts like myself in Singapore have a place where we could network in an environment that we feel better understood. Check out the group on Facebook and meetup.com.
Without further ado, read on to find out about hypnotherapy and how a hypnotist can help you resolve your deep-seated problems. It’s nothing like Hollywood movies and definitely not hocus-pocus!
What is Hypnotherapy?
Hypnotherapy is providing therapy for someone through the use of hypnosis. So then the question is, what is hypnosis?
Now back around 1843, a Scottish surgeon coined the term hypnosis but heavily regretted the decision later. This was because hypnosis is falsely mistaken as a deep sleep.
Hypnosis is actually more of an ultra-focus attention or concentration. Where you focus so intently on something, you zone out everything else. Like when you are having dinner on an enjoyable date and you don’t hear the noises in the restaurant.
Taking that new meaning of hypnosis, and putting it in hypnotherapy, what I do is to get you to defocus on the problem and refocus on the solution. Well, that’s the brief way of putting it.
Now the next thing I want to quickly share is that there are 2 types of hypnotherapy. The traditional hypnotherapy is similar to what you see on TV, where the client is asleep and the hypnotherapist drones on and on. The other kind is conversational hypnotherapy, where the client goes into a hypnotic trance but continues to have a conversation with the hypnotherapist.
This conversational hypnotherapy style is what I prefer to use because it’s more effective, faster and more natural.
What Are the Differences Between Hypnotherapy and Counselling?
The difference between hypnotherapy and counselling is that hypnotherapy works with the unconscious mind while counselling generally works with the conscious mind.
Here’s an example. Let’s say you have a fear of spiders. You go to a counsellor and he does something called exposure therapy. Generally speaking, it uses the gradual exposure to the item that causes fear. Like viewing a picture of a spider for one week, and then seeing a toy spider on the next, before gradually decreasing the distance. You get the picture. However it averages 6 – 8 sessions of exposure therapy. Also, you will have to relive the fear bit by bit until you overcome it.
Now what if you opt for hypnotherapy? I did a video interview where I guided the interviewer through hypnotherapy for fear of insects, fear of flying and fear of enclosed spaces. In about 5 minutes each, the fear was either reduced to an insignificant amount or it was completely resolved. Why?
It is because we worked with the unconscious mind to defocus on the problem (for example, enclosed spaces) and refocus on the solution instead (in his case, it was after he understood why he gave himself this fear and he focused on freedom instead).
Click play to watch the video interview
What Are the Myths vs. Truths of Hypnotherapy?
As you know, movies and TV shows are a lot of drama and action and one of the easiest to have that is to have hypnotic mind control. First of all, hypnotic mind control doesn’t exist. If it did, I will be your King or God and rule the world by now.
So the first thing to understand is that it’s all fluff and entertainment.
Now the next thing, and this is key, is that you cannot do anything against your ethics or values. Now what do I mean by that? Basically, if you don’t want to do something, you cannot. Or if you will never kill someone, I cannot hypnotise you to do so.
Here is a great story that happened in the past. There was a Doctor Milton Erickson who was conducting a hypnotic experiment. He knew Nurse A didn’t like Nurse B so he was trying to hypnotise Nurse A into slapping Nurse B. However, Nurse A said this, “Doctor, if you ask me one more time to slap her, the only one getting slapped will be you.” And this was because Nurse A will never slap someone for no reason!
Another myth is the deep sleep, which I have already explained a bit earlier. And this ties in with the myth of not knowing what is happening around you. You see, most people in a hypnotic trance will still know what is happening around them. The style of conversational hypnotherapy allows for it to happen more naturally too.
Here is another great myth to bust – the myth of being stuck in hypnosis. This cannot happen at all. If I were working with you for example, and you go into a hypnotic trance, just enjoying the relaxation or confidence or other positive resources, and someone comes in and shoots me in the head, well you will wake up from the loud shot! And even if I silently left the room, after some time you will realize I am not making any sound and you will open your eyes, wondering what happened to McKing?
Here are just a few of the common questions and misconceptions! You can comment below for any others which I did not include.
Who Needs Hypnotherapy?
Actually, here is something interesting. Everyone is going into a hypnotic trance by themselves! And hypnotherapy is not just to resolve issues, but also a way to find positive resources from within. So I would say everyone could do with some hypnotherapy!
For example, Tiger Woods used hypnosis to focus on the game and not get distracted by other things. Meanwhile, Jessica Alba uses hypnosis to give birth (otherwise known as hypnobirthing) so that it will be less pain and more comfortable.
Anyone can benefit from hypnotherapy. I typically work with people with emotional issues – such as depression, fears and phobias, anxiety and stress, just to name a few. And on occasion, I also work with people with behavioural issues – such as procrastination and smoking. However I do not do weight loss at the moment.
And before you ask about my charges, the key effective change must come from you. You must want to work through your issues and change yourself, then you can reap the effectiveness of hypnotherapy and in return, you will be able to save a lot of time and money.
For example, I cannot help someone to stop smoking if he said his wife sent him here and he thoroughly enjoys smoking to be honest. I certainly cannot help him!
What is Your Most Memorable/Satisfied Work? (e.g. you overcame a difficult case with great success)
What an interesting question. To me, all my work leaves me satisfied that I’ve helped yet another client with their issues.
Here is one case. I had this lady as a client for 1 session in Nov 2015, for procrastination. I won’t share too much details but she was a stay-at-home mum. After that one session with me for procrastination, she went on and for some reason, managed to open her own café a few months later!
And here is another case; this man came to me for anxiety. He also only came for 1 session, and a month later, he texted me to say thanks and that he has stopped taking medications for over a month already!
It is cases like this that leaves me satisfied and keeps me motivated to do what I do! Usually about 90% of cases can be resolved in 1 session, while the remaining 10% may take 2 sessions. Very rarely does anyone see me for more than 3 sessions (unless they are working on other separate issues).
Oh yea, here is one more case study. This lady first came to me for social anxiety which caused her to have sweaty palms. After 1 session, her anxiety not only dropped remarkably, her sweaty palms also stopped sweating! Anyway, she later came back to resolve a traumatic issue which took another 2 sessions. This is because traumas can be more deeply rooted and thus, require a bit more time.
Would I Unknowingly Reveal Other Things Under Hypnosis Besides My Core Issue?
Nope. As mentioned earlier, you will not say or do anything which is against your ethics and values. You will not share anything like your credit card number or email password because you have no reason to.
Having said that, anything you share regarding the issue will be kept private and confidential.
How Deep do I Need to Reveal – Do I Need to Reveal Everything In Order to Be Healed of My Problems? What is the Standard?
Very good question! It helps definitely for me because depending on the construct of the issue, will I know the right hypnotherapy technique to use to help you.
However, if it is something like, I have a fear of cats and I have no idea where it came from, I can still work with it. This is fine. But if you want to tell me to resolve a trauma but cannot share the details of the trauma, that will be challenging for me to help you much.
How Many Sessions Do I Need?
Depends on what’s the problem you want to resolve and the solution you want to have. In the video interview, you can see how I helped the interviewer resolved 3 fears in 15 minutes.
Now my sessions are an hour each, so that’s a lot of time to resolve a lot of fears and phobias. However, if it is something like traumas, then it may take more than 1 session.
Is There Any Science Behind Hypnotherapy?
Well for every good there is a bad, for every research done on hypnosis, there will be a counter research on hypnosis – as with most research on anything these days.
If you are interested, you can read up on these journal articles
- American Psychological Association – Hypnosis Today
- American Journal of Clinical Hypnosis, Volume 59, Issue 1, 2016
- European Society of Hypnosis – List of Journals on Hypnosis
Also here is a great website showing some famous people like Albert Einstein and Sir Winston Churchill who used hypnosis.
About Lee McKing
Lee McKing nearly died in his sleep when he was 20 years old, developed PTSD by accident and years later, learnt NLP and Hypnotherapy to resolved his anxieties, fears, traumas and depression. Since then, he is helping others just like him to resolve and overcome their emotional issues too. When not going into a hypnotic trance to find inspiration, McKing enjoys reading and learning about interesting articles about the brain, mythology, and occasionally plays a game of chess. McKing is currently a hypnotist, author and speaker and hopes to re-educate the public about the truths and benefits of hypnosis.